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Your wedding day is one of the most special and memorable days of your life. It’s a day when you get to celebrate the love and commitment between you and your partner with family and friends. However, planning a wedding can be overwhelming and stressful, especially when it comes to choosing which traditions to keep and which to let go.

Table full of delicious food and drinks, with people gathered around it, laughing and enjoying themselves, representing focusing on food and drinks instead of a first dance.

One tradition that some couples question is the first dance. Not all couples want to have a first dance at their wedding, but some are under the misapprehension that it is something they HAVE to do! The truth is that you don’t have to include anything in your wedding that you don’t want to, including the first dance.

In this blog post, we’ll explore alternative wedding ideas and the reasons why some couples choose to skip the first dance, and why it’s perfectly okay to do so. I’ll also provide some alternative ideas for how you can celebrate your wedding day without a first dance, and offer some tips for making your wedding day truly your own so you create your own unique wedding traditions!

Why Skip the First Dance?

There are many reasons why a couple might choose to skip the first dance. Some couples simply don’t enjoy dancing, while others may not feel comfortable being the center of attention for that long. For some couples, skipping the first dance is a way to break free from traditional wedding expectations and create a wedding that truly reflects their personalities and values.

Whatever your reason for considering skipping the first dance, it’s important to remember that this is your wedding day, and you should do what feels right for you and your partner.

Here are some non-traditional wedding activities.

Celebrating Your Wedding Day Without a First Dance

If you’ve decided to skip the first dance, there are many other ways you can celebrate your wedding day. Here are a few alternative ideas to consider:

Joyful wedding guests participating in a lively group dance at a reception, showcasing an alternative to the traditional first dance - Tony Winyard Entertainment

1. Have a Group Dance

Instead of a first dance, you could invite all your guests to join you on the dance floor for a group dance. This is a great way to get everyone involved in the celebration and create a fun and festive atmosphere.

2. Share a Song That Has Special Meaning to You

If you don’t want to dance, you could still share a song with your guests that has special meaning to you and your partner. This could be a song that you both love, or a song that has played an important role in your relationship.

Or you could do Marryoke! Marryoke is a fun and unique alternative to traditional wedding entertainment, where you and your guests create a music video on the day of your wedding. It involves lip-syncing and performing to a chosen song, with a videographer capturing the performances throughout the day. These clips are then edited together to create a music video, showcasing the joy and excitement of your special day. Marryoke offers a memorable and interactive experience, providing not just entertainment during the wedding but also a lasting, shareable memento that captures the spirit and happiness of your celebration.


3. Focus on Food and Drinks

Another way to celebrate your wedding day without a first dance is to focus on the food and drinks and create your own custom wedding plans. This could mean having a food and wine pairing or a cocktail hour with signature drinks. This is a great way to show your guests a good time and create a fun and memorable experience.

4. Have Some Games

If you and your partner are not big on dancing, you could have some games instead. This is a great way to get your guests involved in the celebration and create a fun and relaxed atmosphere.  Games include The Mr & Mrs Game, The DJ Battle (between the bride and groom), Wedding Bingo, Wedding Quiz, A Dance-off between a person nominated by the groom and a person nominated by the bride.

(Contact me for suggestions on games that can be played – there are many).

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5. Storytelling Session 

Invite close friends or family members to share short, heartfelt, or funny stories about you and your partner. This personalised wedding touch can create an intimate and memorable moment.

6. Firework Display 

Coordinate a small firework display or a sparkler send-off. This adds a touch of spectacle and is a great way to involve all the guests.

Group of people dancing together, smiling and having fun, representing having a group dance instead of a first dance.

7. Poetry Reading

Recite a meaningful poem or love letters to each other. This can be a deeply personal and emotional alternative to a first dance.

8. Live Performance

If you or your partner are musically inclined, consider a live performance. Singing a song, playing an instrument, or even a joint performance can be a beautiful way to express your love.

"Tony's talent in blending various music genres was extraordinary. He catered to our specific tastes while ensuring the dance floor was always vibrant and inclusive, a true testament to his extensive musical knowledge and experience."
Tony Winyard, experienced wedding MC at [Venue]
Ellie & Simon
Monica & Cathy sharing a sentimental moment

9. Interactive Art

Set up a canvas where you and your guests can contribute to a painting. This creates a unique and lasting memento of your day.

10. Themed Photobooth 

Create a fun and interactive photobooth with props related to your relationship or interests, offering guests a playful way to commemorate the occasion.

11. Charity Activity

If there’s a cause close to your hearts, incorporate a charity activity, like a silent auction, where guests can participate and contribute.

12. Cultural Rituals

Include a special ritual or ceremony from your cultural backgrounds, offering guests a glimpse into your heritage and traditions.

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Sarah & Andrew
Sarah & Andrew
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Tony Winyard is without question a first-class DJ and Master of Ceremony. From the moment me and my wife met him until our final song at our wedding we knew we were working with the best in his business. 'The best DJ set we’ve ever heard' - this was the most common feedback from our guests at the evening part of our wedding!
Jackie & Seth
Jackie & Seth
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Tony made everything about the music for our wedding just right. He really knew how to judge the mood for our varied crowd. He was professional, liaised well, and was easy to deal with. He was obviously committed to making our wedding as perfect for us as he possibly could.
Tom & Ricky
Tom & Ricky
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Tony doesn’t just ‘play music’ – he crafts an atmosphere. His knack for reading the room and dropping tracks that turn a simple dance floor into a vibrant mosaic of memories is uncanny. From retro beats to unexpected bangers, he kept our guests guessing and dancing, blending genres in ways we never thought possible.
Sophia & Pedro

13. Lantern Release

A lantern release can be a visually stunning and symbolic alternative, representing the start of your new journey together.

14. Nature Activity

For outdoor weddings, consider a group activity like planting a tree or releasing butterflies, symbolising growth and new beginnings.

Tips for Making Your Wedding Day Your Own

Whatever you decide to do on your wedding day, here are a few tips for making it truly your own:

1. Be True to Yourselves

The most important thing is to be true to yourselves. Your wedding day should reflect your personalities, values, and style. Don’t feel pressured to include anything in your wedding that doesn’t feel authentic to you and your partner.

2. Think Outside the Box

When it comes to wedding planning, there are no rules. Think outside the box and come up with creative ideas that reflect your personalities and values. This could mean incorporating your favourite hobbies, interests, or cultural traditions into your wedding day.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help

Planning a wedding can be overwhelming, so don’t be afraid to ask

As a DJ and Master of Ceremonies who has provided entertainment at over 2,500 weddings, there’s not much I haven’t seen at weddings. And I can confidently say that skipping the first dance is perfectly fine. In fact, at least 80 of the weddings I’ve DJ’ed at didn’t include a first dance, and in every case, it did not affect the level of fun and enjoyment of the day.

With my wealth of experience in providing entertainment for weddings, I have gained valuable knowledge about many aspects of the big day. From music selection, to interactive elements, to ice-breaking, to lighting and sound equipment, I’m here to help make your wedding day one to remember.

Ready to Create Your Unforgettable Wedding Experience?

Are you inspired to design a wedding day that truly reflects your unique style and preferences? Whether you’re considering skipping the first dance or seeking other personalised touches, I’m here to help bring your vision to life. Let’s explore the endless possibilities together and make your wedding day an event that truly stands out.

🌟 Book a Consultation with Tony Winyard Entertainment and let’s start planning your dream wedding filled with unforgettable moments and tailored to your personal tastes. Your perfect wedding awaits! 🌟


Do I need to have a first dance at my wedding?

No, it’s not a requirement. Your wedding should reflect your personal preferences. If a traditional first dance doesn’t suit you, there are many other ways to celebrate.

Can you accommodate different music tastes at my wedding?

Absolutely! With a wide-ranging music collection and experience in catering to diverse tastes, I ensure the music resonates with you and your guests.

How far in advance should I book your DJ services?

It’s best to book as early as possible, ideally several months in advance, to ensure availability on your chosen date.

What unique services do you offer for wedding entertainment?

I offer various unique services, including personalised introductions, Love Story narrations, and tailored playlists to enhance your wedding experience.

Do you provide services for LGBTQ weddings?

Yes, I have extensive experience and thoroughly enjoy providing services for LGBTQ weddings, ensuring a memorable and inclusive celebration.

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