Choosing the perfect suit for your weddingchoosing the perfect suit

 It’s all very well the bride spending 18 pre-wedding months trying on dresses, buying matching shoes for the bridesmaids and making sure the mothers’ hats match, but unless the groom makes an effort too, the pictures will be strained and the dreaded homemade look will hit the Big Day.

Traditional is an easier look to obtain

It’s certainly safer. Men don’t have a huge choice of acceptable clothing for their own weddings – it depends on how open-minded they and their loved ones are – and in the UK it’s generally a traditional suit, or a suit with a twist.

The traditional suit for most daytime weddings in 2013 is a morning suit. Whether matched with trousers, or a tartan kilt, the jacket should have a narrow fit across the chest and waist, without wrinkling. A stiff quilted lining under a fine cloth outer allows the shape to retain a tailored silhouette, even when the coat is undone, and should probably match the colour of the bridesmaids’ dresses or some other colour detail of the day. The internet is a great place to look at the options, so try and similar sites for some inspiration.

Less traditional might be dangerous, but more ‘him’

For those men who really aren’t keen on the formal look, here’s the news: it isn’t necessary to wear a full suit. Just the waistcoat, tie and smart shoes (and trousers of course!) as long as it looks like a deliberate choice, so ensure that the other male members of the wedding party are similarly attired.

Choosing the perfect suit for your weddingThere are dozens of ways to meld in casual attire to the mix for an individual, very ‘him’ look, from über-fashionable loafers and Lennon-style sunglasses, to rocking a leather look with leather lapels and spike-capped Louboutin shoes.

That leads us to accessories, which make the whole groom set-up a little easier to handle.

Accessorise for sanity

Accessories can help the groom’s attire fit in with the bride’s look, and they can also help him sport an individual style so that he doesn’t just blend in. It isn’t about standing out; it’s about making a small mark on the day – in a good way.

A tie clip can inject personality into the day, especially as it is likely to feature in nearly all the photos. Give it some sparkle, pick a favourite designer, and make sure the rest of the tie-wearers in the wedding party have a matching one. Cufflinks can get the same sort of work up, and every girl loves a bloke in a hat, as long as it doesn’t steal the show.

Alternatively, socks can be an individual touch that doesn’t intrude on the overall look of the day, but which can be flashed at will, without risk of offending the mother-in-law. Bright colours, something designer, or matching the bridesmaids … the possibilities are virulent and fun on the day.

Custom-made ties may also make the grade, and across the wedding party they don’t all have to match in pattern, just in style. And they must have ‘style’.

The ultimate trick for wedding happiness on the day, as far as clothing the groom is concerned, is to communicate everything carefully and honestly to the bride. Long before the time comes. This might seem obvious, but it could save a few arguments!